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We’ve all seen it.  We’ve all heard it.  There is an epidemic of teenage and college-age girls claiming to be bisexual.  They hang out with girls, grope girls- even kiss them.  It’s displayed in movies, on movie channels, and even television now.  It has yet to be a completely acceptable thing.  The thing we have to really ask ourselves is- are these girls really bisexual?  Or are they just performing these acts to get attention?

There is a certain amount of curiosity in every girl that might drive them to kiss their best friend.  It’s called bicurosity, and I have even been guilty of it myself.  However, that doesn’t mean you are bisexual.  I’ve visited numerous blogs and even some MySpace pages of girls that claim to be bisexual when in reality, they’ve only ever kissed a girl.  Does this necessarily mean they are bisexual?  My answer is nope. 

Those that claim complete and total heterosexuality see ourselves as straight because we will only be with the opposite sex- whether it be emotionally, physically, or both.  Our relationships with the other sex can, of course, be based on the sexual chemistry we share, but the fact is, we are heterosexual because we will only be in a relationship with the opposite sex.  This does not apply to most of the girls these days that claim bisexuality.

It’s unfortunate that it has come down to stating that you like women and men to get the attention you crave.  Yes, young men in college think it is ‘hot’ to watch two girls kiss at a party, and even grope each other.  Maybe these girls already know they’re only doing it for attention, and don’t really care.  Then again, maybe they’re doing it to proclaim they’re sexuality.  In that case, they need to step back and ask themselves, “Could I see myself in a relationship with another woman?”  If the answer is no, then they would know they are definitely not bisexual. 

It’s coming to the point that a lot of real bisexuals are being offended by this childish attention getting scam.  It is a way of life, they same way it is being gay, or being straight.  If you’re unsure of your sexuality, that is fine.  A lot of high school and college students go through a transitional period where they truly are confused; however, it would probably be a better bet to just call it how it is, and say you’re bicurious.  Otherwise, you’re really just looking for attention, and someone is bound to call you out on it.

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